By VSGal

For friends of the bride & groom.
 

Do NOT upset the bride or groom!

Do NOT ask the bride and groom who is on their guest list for the wedding

Do NOT ask if you can bring additional guests. 

Do NOT quote your version of wedding etiquette to the bride or groom. 

Do NOT meddle into wedding areas which are not your concern.

Do NOT try to spark a dispute between the bride and groom.

Do NOT take sides if the bride and groom are in disagreement.

Do NOT give the bride or groom wedding advice unless asked.

Do NOT ask the bride or groom if a gift is expected at their shower, engagement party, or wedding - this is tacky.  If you don't want to give a gift for each party that is fine, but at least bring a card.  A wedding gift should be given at the very minimum if you are planning to attend the wedding.

Do NOT forget to put "From (your name)" on any gift you give. 

Do keep your opinions to yourself unless specifically asked.

Do carefully read the wedding invitation and carefully notice how it was addressed to you.

Do compliment the bride on her choice in invitation stationary, dress, colors, flowers, cake, etc.  She busted her ass to figure this all out.

Do RSVP before the deadline. 

Do arrive to all pre-wedding functions on time.

Do arrive early to the wedding ceremony.

Do offer to help the bride and groom.  i.e.:  Helping means helping, not standing around spouting your opinions.

Do your best to keep the bride and groom happy with you (from the engagement through the wedding & reception).

Do ask the bride's opinion on what you should wear to the wedding - if in doubt.              

Do smile on the wedding day - smile a LOT.

Do your best to distract annoying family members and keep them away from the happy couple.

Do offer to host or help with an engagement party or shower for the couple, if you wish.

AND

Do remember to include them in the initial planning stages so the theme, date, and time are acceptable.